When a very good friend of mine blew his brains out one night, it took me three years to forgive him. I was mad for three years at a dead man. Hard to resolve something like that when your conversation is one sided.

There is a basket full of emotions family and friends are going through. To attempt to kill his wife than complete the work by killing himself affects every person who is close. This has extreme effects on the children. My heart goes out to them. How are they to resolve this? I can only imagine the one sided conversation a child must have.

I am the mother of Matthew Bubela. I really cannot believe the persons who think they are God and can cast judgement on my son. I agree that what he did to Alisa was wrong but to say he was a coward and he got what he deserved. How dare you. Where you there went he went to Iraq to fight for your freedom to publicly say what you did. Where you there when he was doing all the things required to be a soldier for the great USA for almost 5 years and the repeated separation from his family for over 3 of those years. Where you there for the past three years when we (both families) have been trying to help them succeed as a couple and help Matthew and Alisa contend with Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome? Do not believe everything you read in the paper without knowing the facts. The facts that he was a devoted husband and father and volunteer firefighter and was training to be an EMT because he was a helper and wanted to contribute to his community and family.
Mental illness and PTSS go hand in hand and the government is still denying that these soldiers and ex soldiers need help but you can know that we all did all that we could to prevent this from happening. Don't sit in judgement of our families unless you are perfect or if you are God and I don't believe any of us are. I want to thank the rest of you guys that gave the positive comments with compassion on what our families are going through at this time. Thank you, Mother of Matthew Bubela and grandmother to his children and loving mother-in-law of Alisa. kab
P.S. I will not be looking back at these comments after I send this because I believe it is not constructive and will not help any of us to get over this tragedy. Thanks for you time. kab

Hello Everyone,
I would like to say Thank you for the support that our families have recieved, we appreciate it. I am the sister of Alisa Pavon Bubela and the godsister of Kallen Matthew Bubela. I would like to say that the only comments that should be made is, pray for us. We need prayer from everyone. Im very Sorry, but "missywilson" I don't appreciate what you have stated in your comment. Only god can judge one, and who is anyone else to make judgement on another. I feel very strong about the sitution of judgement, no one should phrase an ugly statement if they have no idea what happened in our family. However, Thank you everyone for the support and prayers because we really appreciate it.

~AMP~

God help the mother and her children and their families...

I agree with one of the previous posters. It's real easy to sit in judgment when one doesn't know what one is talking about.We're not certain as to WHAT pushed this man to do what he did. No, I'm not condoning murder, either. But it's up to God to judge, not any of us, side line quarterbacking.This young man must have had some mental or emotional issues. OBVIOUSLY, he was not in his right mind to do that. We don't know what he was thinking the night he felt compelled to do what he did.Have some compassion for ALL involved in this horrible tragedy and pray for all that are involved, his and her family as well.  May you escape the guilt his family and friends will probably feel for not realizing he needed help in a serious way.  Hopefully nobody that you know or love is involved in a tragedy of this magnitude.

I think this is such a trajedy. I do not believe problems in a marriage costitute attemptimg to take someone's life. It may sound harsh, but I belive in an eye for an eye and at least this man saved the citizens of Wharton County from determining his fate. Eternal damnation is punishment enough. I belive his actions to be very selfish. What about his family-mainly his children! How sad that they have to bear this burden forever.

My prayers go out to all involved.I pray this Mother recovers to the fullest from her injuries.May God wrap his arms around these two children and their families and guide them threw this tragic time.

This was the son of a cousin of mine and my heart goes out to the family. There are no words to express the pain I feel over this incident. Do not be so quick to judge. There isn't a one of us that is immune to this type of tragedy. My prayers are for my cousin Sissy, Nita and Clarence and the two children left by this horrible incident!
Linda Unger
Houston Texas

You need to hold all the nasty comments to yourself before you go and judge a person you do not even know.

Please keep this woman and her children in your prayers. I pray for her healing and her children that this wont have a lasting impact on them.

That is not love. It is obsession and control and the man that did this is a coward. He got off easy by putting a gun to his head. His wife and children are the ones that will have to live with this and that is truly sad. Just my opinion

Love makes people do crazy things.