Pro: Knowing baby's sex helps in preparation
Aug. 8, 2011 at 3:08 a.m.
Updated Aug. 9, 2011 at 3:09 a.m.
Know or be surprised?
From which bottles to buy to the kiddo's first sleepover and even when little Susie can start wearing lip gloss, parenthood involves decision after decision.
And one major choice for mommies- and daddies-to-be is whether to learn the baby's sex before birth.
Here, Crossroads residents weigh in on whether to learn beforehand or wait and be surprised.
Victoria resident Juli Holley has kept busy recently, chasing around her 4-year-old son and gathering the bedding, clothes and more for the family's newest addition, set to arrive in September.
She already knows it's a girl.
Holley said she wanted to know her baby's sex as soon as possible. When it wasn't evident at her 20-week ultrasound, she had another at 24 weeks.
"I'm not a 'green team' kind of person," she said, explaining she plans to deck her daughter's room out in pinks and frills. "Some people are really into the whole surprise thing, but I wanted to know."
Holley isn't alone.
Recent surveys show that between 50 and 70 percent of couples want to know their baby's sex before the birth, according to pregnancy-info.net.
That number is even higher locally, with an estimated 90 percent of mothers who visit the Victoria Women's Clinic choosing to know, Ultrasonographer Traci Monroe said.
Crossroads parents noted they want to be ready beforehand with baby names, gender-specific decorations, clothing and more, said Monroe, who added she performed her own ultrasound to find out her second child's sex.
Other benefits to knowing include being better prepared for events after the birth, such as scheduling a bris, forming a deeper connection with the baby and making sure that everything is OK medically, according to parents.com.
Planning was the main reason Victoria resident Becky Barajas chose to learn the sex of her third child, a boy.
"I love to shop and I wanted to know what to buy," she said. "It also gave me an idea about what to expect."
Her older children, girls, ages 7 and 3, are more rambunctious, she said, while her 2-year-old son remains fairly calm.
Not knowing the sex simply wasn't an option, Barajas, a student, said. She did gender tests, had the sonogram and even practiced old wives' tales, holding a needle on a string over her belly to see which way it swung.
"They all said it was a boy, and they were right," she said. "I'm glad I knew."