Life At Its Best: Fall in love again
By Jim Graff
Feb. 22, 2013 at midnight
Updated Feb. 21, 2013 at 8:22 p.m.
A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.
You've probably heard this statement before, and if you've been married for any considerable length of time, you've probably experienced its truth.
In the beginning, marriage seems pretty easy. We're so in love, we're convinced we're the only perfect couple in the world. But pretty soon, reality hits. We realize our spouse has a few more flaws than we thought. We quickly learn that it takes work to build the marriage our hearts crave.
Recently, I saw a couple who demonstrated this well. My wife and I were in Galveston, planning for the year. After a few hours of planning, we decided to take a break and hit the beach. As we were walking, we saw an elderly couple that caught our attention. They were both smiling as they strolled down the beach, hand-in-hand. They looked like two teenagers falling in love for the first time.
Now, I'm sure this couple had their fair share of arguments throughout the years. They had flaws just like the rest of us. The difference was that they'd learned that having a lasting, fulfilling marriage isn't about being perfect. It's about loving and growing together in spite of their imperfections.
That day, my wife and I made their example the vision for our marriage. We decided that when we got to be that couple's age we'd be in love with each other the way they were. We decided we'd never stop investing time and effort into making our relationship great.
We all desire that kind of marriage. And that's the kind of marriage we were all created to experience. Ecclesiastes 9:9 says, "Relish life with the spouse you love each and every day of your precarious life." God's called us to fall deeply, madly and intimately in love with one person for life. He created marriage to be enjoyable. It's one of the greatest gifts He's given us. But like everything in life, a good marriage takes work.
The Bible says in Galatians 6:7, "A man reaps what he sows." We get out of our marriage what we put into it. We must consistently sow our time, energy and effort into making our relationship with our spouse better.
We must strive to understand each other's views and communicate effectively.
Then, we must learn to look past each other's imperfections.
That doesn't mean we don't help each other grow in certain areas because we certainly do. But we should never let their flaws influence our love or commitment to them. We must learn to be forgiving and understanding as we move forward together. And, of course, to have fun along the way.
What are you sowing into your marriage today? I encourage you to make that relationship a priority. Continue loving and investing in each other no matter what. It's never too late.
Wherever you are, you can begin sowing seeds for a better marriage today.
Jim Graff is the Senior Pastor of Faith Family Church in Victoria. faithfamilyvictoria.com.