Writer should not judge motives of others
March 16, 2013 at 4 p.m.
Updated March 15, 2013 at 10:16 p.m.
Editor, the Advocate:
I only came across the blog titled "Happy Birthday, Brother" after my mother called me in tears to ask if I had read that "cruel article about suicide" in the paper. She couldn't understand how someone could have such an intolerant and uncompassionate attitude on the matter.
Our family has also lost a loved one to suicide. However, rather than judge my sister for what she did, we simply mourn for her, comfort each other as a family and cherish the beautiful memories we were left with.
To hear you describe your brother as selfish and your feelings as "embarrassment and anger" is terribly sad.
Mr. Martinez, a mentally well person does not commit suicide. Neither you nor I will ever understand the feelings of desperation and hopelessness our older siblings must have felt in order for them to feel as though suicide was their only option.
We should be advocating compassion, awareness and prevention.
Encouraging anger and embarrassment toward the matter only adds to the taboo and stigma already attached.
Belinda Gamez Barrientos, Victoria