Resources are available to help stop abuse
April 14, 2014 at 4:04 p.m.
Updated April 13, 2014 at 11:14 p.m.
Editor, the Advocate:
There are many characteristics that make a healthy and happy relationship possible. Respect, trust, honesty, support, equality and good communication are just some of the things that two individuals should have in order to be happy and healthy in their relationship.
To begin with, respect in terms of a relationship means that each person values who the other is and realizes that boundaries exist. Honesty also needs to be present, as both individuals need to be truthful with each other. Many people can build their relationship back up from troubling times but cannot support their relationship when everything is going right and vice versa; but both are needed. Both must also be equal and participate equally in decision making. Without good communication, does a relationship really stand a chance? Partners need to be able to express their feeling and emotions. All in all, these aspects are absolutely critical in relationships, and without them, two people cannot be happy or healthy.
Physical abuse is when the abuser physically attacks or shows aggressive behavior toward the other member in the relationship. Examples of this are: pushing, punching, kicking, abandonment in a dangerous place, etc. Emotional or psychological abuse includes constant verbal abuse, harassment, mind games, etc. A way one can be prepared for situations of potential violence in a relationship is to look for warning signs. Some warning signs you should look for in your partner: getting angry faster and more often, putting you down, isolating you from your friends and family or trying to force you into sexual acts.
There are numerous places one can go to get support or information on violence issues. For support on violence-related issues, family and friends are always a good option, and the police and helplines are also very supportive. For information on violence issues, the police, helplines or the Internet are very good options.
Alma Aguilar, student attending University of Houston-Victoria, Orchard