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Stunting Standoff
By askalice in Ask Alice
August 10, 2011

Dear Readers: Sometimes there are people on your team or in your clubs and activities that you just can't stand. Fact of Life: you will never get along perfectly with everyone. And that's okay! I absolutely did not like someone in my band class in 6th grade. I just couldn't stand her, but then I took time to get to know her and she is now one of my best friends. Maybe if you get to know people, they will surprise you in a good way. So before you give up hope on someone, get to know them better, you might just find that they are calling out for a friend. Lots of Love, Alice

Original Ask Alice:

Dear Alice: I'm member of my school's cheerleading squad. I love my sport a lot, but I'm having trouble getting along with one of my squad members. Sometimes she's really rude to her squad, other teams, me, and our coach. We've talked to her about her bad attitude before but now she's getting ridiculously mean and nasty. How can I get her to stop without coming off as rude too? -Stunting Standoff

Dear Stunting Standoff: If only you or a few other single people go up and talk to her, she may just think you're being mean to her and she won't stop. Ask a large group of your team members (5 or 6) to go with you and calmly talk to her about her rudeness. I know from experience in my own squad that just talking can quickly turn into a shouting match, so make sure you discuss with the other members of your group that they have to remain calm and in control of their voices. Try to make her see some of the times that she's been rude, because maybe she doesn't even know she's doing it. If all else fails, ask the coach to talk to her and that might snap her out of it. Lots of Love, Alice