Dear Readers: This week's column was mainly about dealing with relationships, especially when dealing with friends, family, and significant others in sticky situations. The relationships you have with others should always be healthy for both people involved. Once a relationship feels wrong or awkward, or just makes you mad, it's time to change the relationship for the better. Some relationships can't be fixed though, and those kind need to be ended in order to benefit both parties. Don't be afraid to tell the other person in the relationship that something isn't right, it will help you and your friend/family member/significant other to trust and listen to you in the future. Please send any advice questions you might have to firstname.lastname@example.org! Lots of Love, Alice
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Sometimes it seems that teenagers only have adults to turn to. Where is peer-to-peer advice?
Many people think it is time that teenagers have a positive influence that comes from their own age group.
Hello everyone! Meet my new column - "Ask Alice" created to advise teens and young adults on their extremely relevant problems and questions.
My name is Alice. I am 16, and go to high school. I thought it would be a great idea if teens had a constructive place to send their questions, and have their questions answered by someone their own age. No matter what question or problem someone might have, I will do my best to give helpful and problem-solving advice. While my advice is from the heart, it does not replace licensed professionals, such as the Gulf Bend Center, but I have a group of medical experts to help out if needed.
As Christer Romson once said, "There is no stupid question! Except, possibly, a question not asked."
Please feel free to send in your problems or concerns. This is a young adult column so any teenager or soon-to-be teenager who needs some sound advice should drop me a letter.
Lots of love,
Dear Alice: My boyfriend and I just broke up and I'm feeling pretty sad. We were together for a while, on and off, and started having problems when we were accepted to different colleges. He stopped talking to me as much and wanted to be around his new college friends. I just feel like it's all my fault for not getting into his college and that our relationship stopped.
Sad in Victoria Dear Sad in Victoria: When relationships end, no one is to blame, and it sounds as if you tried to keep it alive while he pulled away. Going to different schools is a major road bump for many couples, and perhaps he felt it was just too hard to work out. He may have also had some commitment problems, especially after just graduating high school. It's not your fault and the best thing you can do is take the experiences you learned from this relationship and "test the waters" once again with your new information.
Dear Alice:I'm having trouble with my grandmother, "Martha," talking about my stepfather, "Wayne," in a rude way. Anytime I spend the night or ride to school with Martha, she slips in a rude comment about Wayne. I'm mad because Wayne is the man who raised me since I was 5. Please help me, I don't know if I can handle this any longer.
Fed up in Victoria Dear Fed up in Victoria: If your grandmother truly cares about you, she should respect you enough not to say derogatory things about the man with whom you grew up. You need to tell her calmly that you don't like when she says rude things and because she loves you, she should understand that the mean things she says hurt your feelings.
Dear Alice:My friend's boyfriend is cheating on her with me. I really love him, but he won't leave her for me. I feel really bad that I'm hurting my friend, but mad at him that he just won't end it with her. I'm getting really confused and I think she may know. What should I do?
Scared in Victoria Dear Scared in Victoria: I can see where you can be frightened; you don't want to lose your friendship, but you don't want to lose the boy either. He sounds like a shady person if he can just date both of you at one time. He may be doing this with other girls beside you as well. He doesn't deserve either of you ladies, but you are still a friend and need to tell the girlfriend about your misdeeds. It may be scary, but it will make you feel better and save her from a destructive relationship. It will also save you the hassle of being in a hurtful and mistrusting relationship with him.
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