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Dear Alice: I found out a few days ago that my Grandma has cancer. My parents said the doctors told them it was treatable, but that the chemo and stuff would make her really sick. I’m super scared of hospitals, like I won’t even go visit my best friend if she were in the hospital. They just creep me out. I don’t want to seem like a bad family member, but I don’t know if I can handle visiting my Grandma so much while she’s sick. We’ve always been close, and she knows everything about me because we talk so much, but I’m afraid she’ll start to not like me anymore if I don’t visit her all the time. -Hospital Unhappy

Dear Hospital Unhappy: First of all, I’m so sorry your grandma is sick. It isn’t going to be easy, but eventually the treatment will end and she can go back to being the woman you know and love again. I know when my grandma was diagnosed with breast cancer I thought it was the end of the world. But she is doing really well now, and is still the lovable person she used to be. You may be terrified of hospitals, but your grandma really needs you right now, especially since you two are so close. You don’t have to visit everyday if you think you can’t do that, but every other day or so would be good. I’m sure you’ll find that once you start visiting it’ll become less and less scary to be in the hospital. You can talk to the staff there too to make you feel more comfortable. The nurses at the nurse’s station are always really nice and helpful. If you want you can even bring a friend or your parents to your visits so that you have someone to walk in with. Your visits will make your grandma feel better faster and give her something to look forward to. -Lots of Love, Alice