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Dear Alice: I found a note in my locker that says, “If you don’t stay away from my boyfriend, you’ll be sorry.” I know the letter is from my best guy friend’s girlfriend. “Nick” and I have been best friends for years, starting from 3rd grade. He’s been with her for about five months, which I’m ok with. We usually go on double dates and things because my boyfriend is friends with him too. Nick’s girlfriend has always been jealous of our friendship, and she’s tried to end it before. Nick likes her a lot, so I don’t want him to have to choose between her and our friendship. I just don’t know what to do with the latest letter she’s sent. I don’t like Nick in the way she thinks and I have a boyfriend! What am I supposed to do? -Scared Friendless

Dear Scared Friendless: Have you tried to talk to his girlfriend? Maybe just sit her down with Nick and tell you don’t have feelings for Nick other than best friend ones, and that you have a boyfriend. She seems to be stuck on the idea that you’re trying to steal Nick away from her. The letter however, seems extremely threatening. You should tell an adult you trust, like a parent, so they can handle that properly. Nick’s girlfriend sounds really jealous, and she might try to hurt you in some way. Also, show the letter to the school counselor. He or she will be able to keep an eye on both of you so you’re safe. You should tell Nick about the letter too. He doesn’t need an overly jealous girlfriend threatening his best friend on untrue claims. If he decides to continue the relationship, maybe it’s time you take a break from Nick. I know this will be hard, but it will keep you much safer from his girlfriend and perhaps make him realize the she’s just not the right one for him. -Lots of Love, Alice