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Dear Alice: About a year ago I started to like this one guy a lot. He’s really funny and I think he’s great, but we never went out or anything because he said he didn’t want to ruin our friendship. I knew that was just guy code or whatever for “I don’t like you like that” so I moved on and started dating another guy. Me and the first guy are still really good friends though. The person I’m dating now is sweet, funny, and loves me, but lately I’ve been having some questions about the other guy. A few days ago he told me that he’s liked me for a long time, but before he could get the guts to ask me out, I started dating the second guy. I still have feelings with the first guy, but I don’t want to break up with my boyfriend because I really am in love with him. I just don’t want to make a wrong decision and hurt someone. -Decision Maker

Dear Decision Maker: I think that you should talk to both guys about what you’re feeling. Talk to your boyfriend and tell him that you just aren’t feeling the same as you used to and that something is blocking your relationship. You don’t have to tell him exactly what but it will help him understand what you are feeling. Also talk to the other guy. Tell him that you are still in love with your boyfriend, but you have feelings for him. If he truly cares about you he will help you make the best decision for you. Don’t try to have a romantic relationship with both guys at one time. Not only is that considered cheating, but it will put enormous pressure and pain on you, especially since you care about both of the guys. It would hurt them even worse. You are going to have to choose on of the guys. Which one makes you feel safe and special, and that you can see yourself in a stable relationship with him? Really give it thought because you don’t just want to follow a whim and find out you messed up a perfectly good relationship. If you decide to stay with your boyfriend, you should distance yourself from the other guy to avoid temptation. If you decide to break up with him you should wait a few months to start up a new relationship so you can give yourself some time to think and get ready for a new relationship. -Lots of Love, Alice