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With the arrival of the Hooters golf tournament, I find it is a great opportunity to speak to women.

Our apology.

As a man, I am sorry our fallen human male nature has delevoped such an establishment that objectifies girls and women. For the most part, I am all about the market providing for the needs of a society, but this is where the market is not always right.

I know, we often say that we go to Hooters for the wings, drinks, and sports, but let us be honest, if you did not wear the "Hooters Girl" uniform we would never stop in and spend the money. We tell our wives that Hooters is "family" restaurant because their website says it is, but it is just a justification for us to look upon other women without being told we are being unfaithful with our eyes.

It is doubtful any of us husbands would desire to see our wife working for this place because we are supposed to protect them from the types of men that want to treat them as a piece of meat. Also doubtful is the fact that we fathers would want to see our daughters going to work there, because we surely do not want to look at our children the way we look at a Hooters Girl and would find it mighty weird to have our male friends ogle over our wife or daughter's body.

We have abused women too long. We have made them think that they are just a sum of body parts by paying you to wear clothes that do not reveal enough of you! For all you reveal is the physical properties of your person. We have too often forgotten that you are more than body parts, you are a person with a mind, emotion, and unique personality that is never seen when we make a place that only lets you wear clothes that only accentuate certain features.

We have convinced you that you can work at places like this by offering you scholarships for development, but have created a system that you must first sell yourself to the lustful gazes of men. You are really worth more than that and I am sure we can find other places to work that offer scholarships.

We have confused you in regards to expectations. We make it a crime of sexual harassment if we treat you this way in the workplace, but shower you with great tips if you are our waitress.

We have convinced you to try for the Hooters Girl Swimsuit pageant. We were glad that the word "beauty" was left out of the title of the pageant because we wanted to hone in on only one thing about you. We could really careless about what you like to do, your hobbies, dreams, background, or anything else that takes the focus away from your outfit.

Yes, there are many places to find women dressed in less like the movies, TV, other establishments, but places like Hooters has branded themselves as the place to gawk and drool over just your body.

Please accept our apology.


Comments


  • I guess I should have capitalized the "h" in Hooters.

    July 16, 2010 at 9:19 a.m.

  • @windy,

    ;-)

    July 16, 2010 at 9:10 a.m.

  • I love hooters. I tell the kids that a hooter is an owl. I love the buffalo shrimp. =P

    July 16, 2010 at 9:06 a.m.

  • KyleC..."I'm so funny."

    and HUMBLE, too. Your humor is exceeded ONLY by your humility. :)

    July 16, 2010 at 8:58 a.m.

  • From reading the male comments here it seem the Illuminati conspiracy between Hooters, Viagra and the AARP is very real and alive and well in Victoria...

    I'm so funny.

    ;-)

    July 16, 2010 at 8:43 a.m.

  • Southtexas is right about the Hooters Women exploiting men with the men tipping excessively. The women are expert in a magic trick. They turn your money into their money. Instead of working at some burger joint making just a little more than nothing, they're making good money in a fun environment. Nobody is making them work there and wear the shorts ant tee shirts. It's all part of the entertainment. Nothing dirty goin on.

    July 16, 2010 at 7:57 a.m.

  • Lighten up people.....if anything the Hooter's girls are exploiting the crowds of not so bright male customers who are being led to give huge tips at the whim of their second and much inferior brain. Men go to Hooters, they eat the inferior food....put up with inferior service and tip to a level beyond reason.....tell me who is getting exploited here. Since I am a woman I say...Good for you Hooters girls.....take the testosterone idiots for every penny you can get out of them. That's what they get for not giving us the right to vote until the 1920's!

    July 16, 2010 at 1:31 a.m.

  • VBB... Very well said. You must be a helluva woman. I'm sure you're great lady, too.

    July 15, 2010 at 10:20 p.m.

  • How about women objectify Men? Go to a Male strip club. Case equalized.

    July 15, 2010 at 10:07 p.m.

  • I can't remember the last time I got an apology out of a woman...A damn near impossible feat.

    Just sayin' ;-)

    July 15, 2010 at 9:52 p.m.

  • And to apologize to us females for places like Hooters & the guys who frequent them, is way more offensive to me as a female. Basically you are saying we are to simple/stupid or niave to understand they are "exploiting" us for their gain/visual pleasure. If you men take it , the uniform, the wrong way, that is your problem, but I am not about to don a prarie dress when I can wear shorts & a cute tank top, to appease your guilty conscience.

    July 15, 2010 at 9:35 p.m.

  • I'm female & have no issues with Hooters, besides their bad food & lack of full bar. I also have a daughter that I would have no issues working there, in fact I told her to go for it when she asked if I would have a problem with it. It's not they are dancing a pole having men stuff dollars in all open/available cracks.

    Ihave no issues with being "objectified"....I like it when men notice me, if you didn't know it already, you can't see a persons brain, heart or humor...if it weren't for that initial instinct of attraction, many people would be wandering around hopelessly single. How would you decide who you wanted to start up a relationship with? Looks, whether you wish to admit it or not, is the 1st rule of attraction.

    Women also objectify men, as a matter of fact, I did today. I have been known to tell a good looking,yet annoying guy,he would be better to shut his mouth & just sit there & look pretty. Does that make me a bad person? No, it makes me human. Looks DO matter...that's why beauty products sell so well, thats why we work our behinds off to stay trim, lose the grey & look younger than we are. If men quit looking at me with appreciation, it would be a sad day. I'm not saying it's okay to act on your impulses without consent, but merely appreciating attractive people doesn't make us monsters or inherently bad & it's not cheating...it is what it is...human nature. I lust in my mind & with my eyes, all it does is prove that I am not dead yet.

    July 15, 2010 at 8:37 p.m.

  • "For many years people chose to work in conditions that were inhumane,"

    Sure they did, "I owe my soul to the company store", in some cases that was the only work available, in other cases there where the sweat shops ect. But IMO you cannot compare robber Barron jobs of the late 1800 to mid 1900 to Hooters.

    July 15, 2010 at 6:46 p.m.

  • jared, i see your point with respect to inhumane working conditions. those are a far cry from slinging wings at Hooters. there are plenty of service industry jobs that these women could work at, but they choose to work at Hooters. working in a sweat shop in China, not a whole lot of options there right now.

    what about the women that actually enjoy the attention? are you saying that they shouldn't enjoy it and they are making it hard on their "sisters" by playing to the over-sexed Cro-Magnons?

    some would argue that deep inside most women want to be seen as desirable, but their own low self-esteem and the voice of the NOW movement stop them from expressing it

    July 15, 2010 at 6:45 p.m.

  • This blog begs a lot of questions. Is the Hooter chain successful ?

    Sure it is. Does the server attire contribute to there success?

    Of course it does.

    Are a lot of the Hooters servers college age girls trying to pay for there education by working for more than minimum wage?

    I am not sure, but $100 or $200 a night in tips beat the heck out of $220 a week working at a fast food place.

    Does a business, by giving persons a opportunity to make more than minimum wage, even if they have to wear shorts and T-shirts and have to be a certain body style, a bad thing?

    I don't know, but I don't think they are complaining about the pay, even if they have to put with some BS from customers.

    July 15, 2010 at 6:37 p.m.

  • Holein1, thank you for the comments. I see we may disagree, but we can still be friends. When I commented that without the uniforms we wouldn't go, I acknowledge what you made clear. Other places offer wings, drinks, and sports, and that is good and fun. But Hooters is not known for wings. Yes, they serve them, but I think it would be ridiculous to think that is what they are known for. Also, re: your comment that nobody forces them. I agree, but that doesn't make it right and good. For many years people chose to work in conditions that were inhumane, did that justify the actions of the corporation "because the worker chose it."

    Roberttx: thanks for the advice. Many of my blogs are long. That is somewhat intentional. I am aware the rules of blogging, I choose to side-step this one because I want my readers to read the post for the desire of reading the post, not because it is short. I will try harder to make my points more succinct. I appreciate your readership.

    July 15, 2010 at 6:16 p.m.

  • honestly, that was too long to read

    but those sliders at hooters are like crack

    July 15, 2010 at 1:41 p.m.

  • I side with pilot. I love women. I respect them. My mother and sister taught me that. I cherish my wife and daughter.

    That being said, you're a little off base. It's not the 50's anymore. Women are no longer treated like "a piece of meat."

    No one forces these women to work at these places. You should be ashamed of yourself. You are making it seem like these poor girls aren't smart enough to think for themselves. They only know they're be objectified is if you tell them.

    I also disagree with your assertion that people wouldn't go if they didn't wear those uniforms. There are plenty of sports bars, wing joints, etc that don't have those types of uniforms and they do pretty well. Besides, the uniforms aren't revealing. A tight t-shirt, shorts and pantyhose? I see women in less at HEB.

    Like your blogs, but this one isn't doing it for me.

    If men stopped looking at women as beautiful, sexy, sexual creatures, then who would pay for all of their drinks? That's a joke, but seriously, think about it. I often times ask girls/women how many times they have gone out with $0 and yet were able to drink all night, go to different clubs with cover, even eat. You would be shocked. Some even replied, "How many times this week, or this month?"

    July 15, 2010 at 1:26 p.m.

  • Pilot and N45BA,

    I appreciate the comments. If you do not fit in the article that is wonderful. I wish there were more gentlemen like yourselves. However, I do speak on behalf of man from a generalization afterall, I do not think that Hooters is branded for women. I do think the establishment is meant to attract males. It popularity and growth as a business model do seem to justify that it is doing what it wants to do, that is attract males that do think it is great to objectify women.

    Perhaps, if you do not fit inside the article, then I can challenge you to speak up and defend women the you already said you respect.

    Thank you for commenting.

    July 15, 2010 at 12:58 p.m.