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I guess technically it should have been celebrated 9 months ago. That is when my world was much different. How different was it?

Let's put it this way, I went from non-existence, nada, zilch to something with a complete DNA that was unique and unrepeatable to me alone. I started my growth and development that would continue for 33 years today.

I always told the kids I taught that birth was a change of address, as is another definite occurrence in life called death. 33 years ago, I came face-to-face with my parents. This is an incredible event to celebrate as we do each anniversary of our birth. As incredible as this day is, the day of conception still marks a higher good. It was the good that brought another progeny into existence. A sign that this world and life is still good enough that it should go on. That date marks the beginning of something, nay I say “someone,” completely different in the world, as it does when each child is conceived. This is not just some new chair, new pet, new table, new house, or new garden, all of which could be properly said to be “mine” or “I created it with the cooperation of nature.” Whereas producing something from resources by exerting our will upon it is very proper to man, the act of conception does not produce a thing. Rather, it creates a new person with the intrinsic value that can never have a price, can never be used as means, and should only receive the value response of love.

So as I celebrate the 33 year of my birth, the initial meeting face-to-face with my parents, I would like to thank them for all the years of taking their responsibility of parenthood seriously by educating me by “creating a home where tenderness, forgiveness, respect, fidelity, and disinterested service are the rule” and making a home that “is well suited for education in the virtues.” Through the “apprenticeship in self-denial, sound judgment, and self-mastery - the preconditions of all true freedom” you have given me the best things in life that allow me to make as free of choices as possible. As you taught your “children to subordinate the ‘material and instinctual dimensions to interior and spiritual ones,’” you have shared that the most important things in life cannot be bought, sold, or bartered, nor can they be taken away. Thanks Mom and Dad.