• i've spent a good number of years in sales, and the most successful ones aren't so much the "listener" types, but the ones who subtly tell you what to do. so many people out there are just passive and indecisive or just don't know what they want, that they really crave someone who will just tell them what to do and that everything will be ok.

    most people would agree that Lincoln was a great leader, and it's hard to look at his history and say that he was a great listener, so much as he just told the country what was best, and he succeeded on that. any George Bush Jr. fans would say the same thing.

    listening is great, but it doesn't necessarily precede action.

    April 15, 2012 at 12:06 a.m.

  • I didn't think of that! You're too funny this morning Jared!

    Glad they fixed it. Now I can see what you're thinking...

    April 11, 2012 at 10:50 a.m.

  • EA, I have been using invisible ink ;)

    Jessica, thanks.

    April 11, 2012 at 8:38 a.m.

  • Jared, something is still screwed up--your blog appears, but your comments don't. It still says 'page not found'.

    April 11, 2012 at 8:06 a.m.

  • To steal a phrase from Dr. Phil--We teach people how to treat us. Leaders, for the most part are listeners. They are either listening to the right folks or they are listening to the wrong folks. Very few leaders, from the president of the local garden club to the President of the United States, operate as a solo act.

    Bad leaders happen when there is apathy and they go unchallenged. Good leaders will rise on their own merit, supported by those who are not apathetic.

    April 11, 2012 at 7:44 a.m.

  • Observer, I agree it does mean recognition of another person and a stepping outside of self. Listening is very dangerous, you might just recognize somebody exists outside of yourself. Though I think it is a trained skill that is learned from about ages 4-12 or so. Training becomes much more difficult in the older years.

    PatB, exactly. I think virtue is necessary for leadership development and the virtues are also needed for effective followership. The leader that exemplifies the virtues will bring out virtues in his followers.

    April 11, 2012 at 7:39 a.m.

  • Most of the listed traits can be applied to employees/fellow workers,too.
    Patrick Barnes

    April 11, 2012 at 7:15 a.m.

  • Listening is a sign of a sincere interest in what another has to say, hence a sincere interest in the other person. I think most "good listeners" come by the ability naturally. I guess it could be taught, as can almost anything, but that would require that the student learn to have a sincere interest in someone other than themselves and what they have to say. I suspect those most in need of this sort of training would also prove to be those incapable of learning it.

    April 10, 2012 at 3:27 p.m.