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Our beliefs are the motivation behind our actions. We decide to take a particular action because we believe they will produce particular results. In a sense, your beliefs make you who you are. They determine which job you’ll decide to apply for and which relationship you decide to pursue. Your beliefs lead you to a variety of decisions that now determine your lifestyle. We learn rules and expectations as children. These guidelines impact us most because we internalize them before we’re old enough to question them, and before you know it, they’ve shaped our deepest sense of self.

From the time I was a small child I was taught that your job and work were most important. My Father religiously worked to make a better home for me and this included; every weekend, late nights, and holidays. I was taught this law by someone who is a work- a-holic but very successful man at that. Without knowing it, my Dad passed his idea of success onto me and for years I believed you must work -constantly- in order to be successful. During which time, I also discovered what I wanted to be and realized I must believe differently, in order to be fulfilled as a stay-at-home mom.

Buying into a prescribed role and its rules can lead to guilt and shame. If you’re trying to be something that you’re not, you’ll continually fight against yourself until you admit this truth. In the past, you may have tried to change yourself to fit into the roles you learned were important, but you must discover your own beliefs and conform to them.

Success can be rewarding when achieved through your own belief system and not someone else’s.

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