Our responses to our feelings are automatic and it’s very hard to control them. For example, if you touch a hot kettle with your bare hand, more than likely, you’ll automatically jerk back and scream…”Ow!” Your body’s response to the burn is automatic but the emotion you feel about the burn is in your control. You can both except the incident as an accident and continue cooking or you can allow it to ruin your day. It’s very hard to control whether we like or dislike something at any given moment, however, once we master our emotions it’s a lot easier to “let it go!”

Emotions refer to the active responses that arise from our feelings. Based on unpleasant feelings you might have an emotional reaction known as: anger. And, when you are not aware of this your reactive response becomes automatic and very quickly begins to make your blood boil! However, when you’re aware of your anger, you actually have more choices about how to handle it. You can respond with more emotional intelligence, with a calm state of mind, or simply walk away.

Feelings refer to our basic gut-level likes and dislikes and there are three kinds: pleasant, unpleasant, and neutral. When you hug a loved one, you probably feel pleasant feelings. Unpleasant feelings arise when you go to the Dentist for a painful procedure, and neutral feelings come from routine activities that invoke either happiness or angry outburst. Today, take a step back and become aware of your reactive emotions.

With this understanding and a new-outlook on life you can consciously decide how to react while being in control and feeling calm.

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