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She Ain't The One For You
By timoi in On Another Note
January 9, 2006

I saw this story online today. Apparently this guy is trying to get his girlfriend back after she gave him an ultimatum to get rid of his Elvis memorabilia...

Man Chooses Girlfriend Over Elvis

Poor guy. If you want my opinion, he’s making a BIG mistake. I’ll give you an example…

I have two really big obsessions in my life. One is music, the other is Star Wars. The music one is pretty valid. It keeps me creative, I can actually credit music to helping me con my wife into dating me. She liked the idea of this guy who gets recognized at odd places, takes pictures with fans, and dedicates a song to her onstage. I can credit it for a few other things too, music knowledge for one, I love listening to new music, I like to learn what makes a song catchy, or silly, I can often spot a trend or a true significant change in a genre. It helps with my own songwriting. I remember the day my dad came to one of our shows to watch my band play, we were in rare form that night, and the venue was packed. It was one of the first times I could feel my dad’s utmost pride for me.

The Star Wars obsession is what I really want to focus on. It has dictated a lot of what I buy and even how I decorate. (You should see my office at home). My father keeps waiting for me to outgrow it ( I believe those were his words). But no, I think this one is here to stay.

Like the poor guy in the news article, it did affect my love life before my wife came into the picture. A story many of my friends never tire of, is when I kicked a nice young lady out of my apartment because she said that the movie was stupid while it was playing in my living room. Another incident that comes to mind, was a girl wanted me to sell all of my toys for money, I mentioned it to a friend of mine, he said “She’s not the one for you.” And he was right, I sent her packing before any of those toys ever had a chance to hit ebay.

It may seem extreme to some, but I assure you it isn’t. We’re not talking serious relationships here, they were people I went out with, not much else. I wanted to get to know them better, so that’s why I showed her the movie. What am I supposed to think if she says the movie is “stupid”? How can I look long term with a girl who doesn’t at least validate my obsession? Can I look forward to a Star Wars birthday party, or anniversary themed get together in the future? Will she snuggle up with me on a cold winter day and watch “Return Of The Jedi” after a long day of work? Probably not. Were they nice girls? Sure…. But they’re just girls. None of them saved my life, made me more imaginative and creative, gave me some hope that the good guys can win and saved me from years of boredom as my brother and I sat utterly bored and helpless in the rural school district we were forced to go to grades 4-6.

My wife is a different story altogether. First off, I was in love with her before we even spoke words to each other. It’s a long story, for another blog, but the part that is relevant to this story is one day when we were already dating she said “You know, I’ve never seen the Star Wars movies, and I’d like to watch them with you, because I know you love them so much, and can explain it to me if I get confused.”
I almost bought the ring that day.

Well, long story short, in conclusion, and all that jazz, it’s kind of nice to like something so much you become a collector. My wife never has to worry about finding something for me as a gift, all she has to do is look for the logo. My stepdaughter thinks it’s “cool” and will often watch the movies with me. Not to mention the fact that the lessons about the eternal battle of good and evil can be carried on to the next generation. She can look with wide eyed wonder at the house that Lucas built.

So to the guy with the Elvis collection… You’re making a mistake. Why wouldn’t you want a gal that will dance to “Love me Tender” at your wedding? I just have a hard time wondering about people who think they can change other people. People don’t change. Selling that suit that Elvis himself gave him as a gift will not make him forget about Elvis, it will fill him with regret and contempt for his girlfriend instead, it’ll get buried and one day surface at a socially awkward time. Take my friend’s advice. “She’s not the one for you.”