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Flexibility in all things.
By coolgranny in The Paradox of Long Lives
July 28, 2009

Younger son called and they will leave tomorrow, very early in the AM. The radiologist for my daughter-in-law is on vacation for another week, so they are taking this opportunity to come home and visit. This was the actual plan while my son was in Afghanistan, except that I would have flown up and driven back to help DIL out on the trip. I will either follow them back or wait for their word for me to fly out. What a blessing for everyone to get to see each other.

My older son will begin a world wind tour of the northeast, and then he and his wife will go to Ohio for his dad and wife's 25Th anniversary. Summer will be over by the time we are all in Texas again. I just wish NC was a bit cooler than Texas, but it's not. We will just spend a lot of time in the swimming pool.

I am just thankful that both great grandmothers will get to see my grandchildren. I have always been the one to live away from home, and my kids seemed to see the relatives the least. That can be a good thing sometimes, but as we all get older, it keeps the juices flowing to be around another generation, and at the end of the day, we end up with unexplainable smiles and really great feelings in our hearts.

I hope my boys will bond a bit with this visit, but won't push. They are 10 years apart and will probably be close when they are both nearer to 50. It's hard to blend families, and I feel great just knowing that there is normal sibling rivalry between them. They don't know it, but both went through the same rebellions and irritations with a much too wise mother and fathers who had both been there,done that. Each man was very careful to keep their true identities to themselves while raising the guys. That's good, too. I don't think either one would have lived through any of their fathers' antics if they had followed in either footsteps. I am glad that I was one strong woman for both of my kids. I was willing to forgive and forget through all of the stormy stuff, and it it really nice to see this characteristic in my sons. My boys are my joy in life, and their families continue to add to my happiness. Hub and I were just discussing that we are much better grands than we were parents, but we did our best at the time. The boys can follow in our parenting footsteps any day.