It’s no secret that I never wanted children. Kids just aren’t my jam. I’ve always known this. So when Jeb and I got married, we both happily jumped aboard the no-kids train. Of course, as you all know by now, the universe found a loophole. Yes, I was well aware that I would be a summer/holiday mom, but that’s maybe six weeks out of the year.
Nope. A little over a year ago, I became a full-time mom to a bouncing baby girl aged 14 years. After the initial panic subsided, I really started to think about what it meant to be a mom. What did I want to teach her? What did I need to teach her? Should I let her have access to my closet? Even after all this time, I still don’t know the answers to most of these questions. I do know that she told me the other day that I was the “momma bear,” and it was my job to protect my cub. Gee thanks, kid. As if I didn’t have enough to worry about.
But how do I protect her? What do I tell her when a boy is breaking her heart? Do I pass along my mother’s sage advice of “dump his a--” or do I take a more empathetic approach? Or do I say nothing at all? I know I want her to grow up to be a strong, independent woman who knows how to take care of herself, but I also want her to find someone who loves her the way her dad loves me.
I often reflect back on my relationship with my mother when I was a teenager. I know I’m lucky because not only did we have a great relationship then, but we remain close today. She is my No. 1 go-to for parenting advice. I am also lucky in the sense that some of the most amazing moms I know are also my friends. Between Katy, Kerry, Ingra and Dayna, there are very few teenager problems they haven’t come across.
Of course, one of my all-time favorite mother-daughter duos would have to be the incomparable Klimist women. I have known Laura and Kate since I was literally the same age as Karara. I have watched Kate grow up as I have grown up myself. These two women have been my family for more than 20 years and 100% set the bar for #motherdaughtergoals.
Not only are they just amazing humans in general, but they are both ridiculously talented, which is why I am super excited to see them perform in Theater Victoria’s “Mamma Mia” this weekend.
For real though, I can hardly get Karara to acknowledge me in public if any of her friends are within a five-block radius, and these two are going to be performing on stage together.
“Mamma Mia” runs Friday through August 4 and is a show 20 years in the making. These two have literally been preparing for this since Kate was a little girl. My musical influence on her at the time was Britney Spears, while Laura was teaching her Broadway musicals.
Anywho, it’s going to be a great show, and, with any luck, maybe some of their Klimist magic will rub off on us Lacey women.