Columnist's perspective on marriage is wrong
Dec. 30, 2012 at 6:30 a.m.
Editor, the Advocate:
Excessive demands on a syndicated columnist can cause the writer to sometimes forego fact checking as an essential writing tool. I am an occasional reader of Tina Dupuy's articles, and though her articles do offer food for thought, I found her Dec. 17 column to contain some erroneous statements. For the benefit of readers of her article who may have missed the demarcation line between supported and unsupported opinion, I would like to offer a couple of addendums.
In Ms. Dupuy's narrative, traditional marriage is placed in a negative light. She considers plural marriages in the Bible as supporting evidence. An uninformed reader may take a leap of faith and conclude that the Bible promotes polygamy. But even a casual reader of the Bible who approaches it just as a literary text with the intention of validating Ms. Dupuy's position will clearly distinguish the Biblical expectation for one man to be married to one woman from the existence of men in the Jewish nation who took their cues from the cultures around them and married multiple wives. This is not a Biblical condoning of polygamy but rather an informative observation of the lifestyle of particular individuals of that time.
Similarly, Ms. Dupuy makes the dubious claim that while marriage as a partnership of equals has no biblical precedent, it is best exemplified by the modern, nontraditional marriage. Not only will a curious reader be hard-pressed to find Biblical evidence supporting the acceptance of an abusive marital relationship, but it will also be even more difficult to find evidence that God considers the wife to be inferior to the husband. Relationships always come with responsibilities, and there is ample evidence that the traditional marriage exposed in the Bible places unique responsibilities upon both husband and wife while considering them equals in the sight of God.
The dilemma of our information age is that there is so much data that we are more likely to take another person's word rather than pursue the truth ourselves. Ronald Reagan's signature phrase when dealing with the Russians holds true for us today: trust but verify.
John Kunchandy, Victoria