Life At Its Best: Wait for that special one
By Jim Graff
Nov. 16, 2012 at 5:16 a.m.
Most of us dream of finding that "special someone." We hear other couples' love stories, wondering when our own will be written and who'll play a part.
I remember my first dating experience. I was in the ninth grade, and I found out one of the cheerleaders liked me. We talked for a bit, and then she invited me to a party. When I went, I found out that she wasn't the kind of person I thought she was.
I realized that there was more to dating than I'd assumed. I wasn't ready to commit myself to a relationship. I was still trying to discover who I was myself.
It was then that I made a decision to enjoy my season of singleness. I was going to have fun making friends and discovering the person God called me to be. I was going to trust that when the time came, he would bring the right person into my life.
God wants us all to make that choice. He's written a unique love story for each of us. In Jeremiah 29:11, He says, "I know what I'm doing. I have it all planned out - plans to take care of you, not abandon you, plans to give you the future you hope for."
Our heavenly father knows the end from the beginning, and he has everything under control. We don't have to live in fear or worry about being alone. Instead, we can enjoy the journey. We can use our time of singleness to discover the passions he's placed in our hearts. Then we can be confident that, in his timing, he'll lead us to the person he has for us.
In 1 Corinthians 7, Paul gives the people of Corinth similar advice. He instructs them, "I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord's affairs - how he can please the Lord."
That advice still holds true for us today. Our first step in having good dating relationships is learning to live free from concern. If you're single, use your time to seek God and discover the individual passions and purposes he's put inside you. He'll teach you things now that'll prepare you for a great relationship down the road.
Then, be sure to guard your thoughts. The enemy often tries to convince us we're lonely or that we need a relationship, but we must remind ourselves that God's will and timing are perfect. Continuously submit your desires to him and place them in his hands. Then, trust that when the time comes, you'll enjoy a great life with the person he has for you.
Do you struggle with being single? If so, learn to have fun. Use this season to seek God and to build great friendships. Don't rush into a relationship, but be confident in his perfect timing. I promise, a love story written by God is well worth waiting for.
Jim Graff is the Senior Pastor of Faith Family Church in Victoria. faithfamilyvictoria.com.