Ask Chuck: Surprise Dad with a massage gift

By Charles Colson
May 30, 2013 at 12:30 a.m.

I have tried to convince my husband that a professional massage would help him out tremendously. He is always complaining that he hurts all over. Wouldn't this be a perfect gift for the kids to give him for Father's Day?

Absolutely - the best kind of gift. It would be a gift to himself, personally. If he hurts all over, the massage therapist can help him relax and forget the world outside for a little while.

We all need to take time for ourselves and let the professionals prove how correct massage techniques can be beneficial. Your husband will even sleep better than he has for some time. He will see that his breathing will improve, and it will minimize his pains.

Massage has no respect for age at who needs it the most. I have seen where men as young as 20 and as old as 90 actually feel the difference it makes, including their attitude and outlook on many things.

If Dad is having trouble with headaches and sinus problems, for instance, he will be amazed at the great results coming from just taking a little time for himself and realizing he is important. too. Of course, he will like it so much, he will have to have more than one treatment.

It is wise to get on a health routine with massages and maintain at least one or two a month. Just think, you have done yourself a favor. I bet he'll be kinder to you and the kids, besides being so grateful. You are giving him one of the healthiest gifts possible.

My brother and I have wanted to give our dad a massage gift for Father's Day for a number of years. We think he is not sure if he will feel more comfortable with a male therapist rather than a female therapist. Can you help us out along these lines?

Yes, I hope this will be a good solution. Most men feel quite comfortable with a male therapist because they are the same gender and can relate to many guy problems. However, some female therapists have a real knack working with men, too.

First of all, make sure they are licensed massage therapists. All therapists are trained by state board instructions to sit down first with new clients to get to know them and confidentially discuss their health needs. Before the therapist begins the therapy session, he or she is to have the gentleman sign a therapist/client agreement of techniques.

This usually is done only once and will carry through for the future sessions. This alone will make the client feel more comfortable, knowing that someone actually cares that there is room for improvement health wise.

All massage therapists fully understand - whether the client is male or female - it is the client's personal choice as to what gender of a therapist they prefer. So, ask Dad who he might relate with the best and talk with several therapists before making that vital decision. Remember, Dad will love you even more because you took control over his gift to make him feel special.

My husband is a professional health care provider, and I think he really needs massage therapy treatments, whether he admits it or not. Being a health care provider yourself, how do you convince someone like this who thinks he knows it all and doesn't need anyone's help?

Would you believe this is more common than not? Usually, these guys need more massages than anyone, especially working with the public as close as they do.

They simply need more of a driving pressure to make them call for an appointment. Just tell him the massage is for a Father's Day gift. It is exclusively for him, and he can not pass it on to anyone else.

Many times, health care providers are givers rather than receivers. It is interesting that through our massage therapy training, we were taught that all of us should create the balance in our lives and equally be both givers and receivers. Just think, a receiver allows one to give him a gift without taking away the pleasure of the gift of giving. It just sounds good, doesn't it?

So, health care providers need to learn to be takers and enjoy the benefits for themselves. Your husband will then realize that someone cares for him, too. Once he experiences that great massage, I bet you'll see that smile on his face with gratitude and he'll finally admit that he needed attention also.

My husband recently became an honorable warrior from the service. He was affected somewhat physically and is in and out of a wheelchair. The kids want to give him something special for Father's Day. Do you think a massage would be something special for him?

Oh, my goodness, what a beautiful thought from all of you. The massage treatment would and could be one of the most valuable gifts he could ever receive.

And if he could manage to get on a monthly program of treatments, I don't think you could ever count the many blessings that would make him feel any more special. Therapists are quite trained to work with his present physical condition.

Massage treatments are filled with professional techniques to help him with correct blood circulation, blood pressure balancing and controlling his anxiety conditions that he could probably face the rest of his life. Therapists are qualified to know what areas of the body need the most attention.

If anyone on earth ever needed to get away for a little bit of heaven treatment, it is our special warriors who have taken time out for our freedom cause.

Now, it is our turn to thank them, and massage treatments are just the beginning of the many ways we could show our gratitude to them.

Happy Father's Day to all of you dads and even those expecting to be dads in the future. So, surprise Dad with a therapeutic massage. He won't forget the love you have shown him.

Charles Colson is an area hair stylist and registered massage therapist. You may email hair or massage questions to crcolsonrmt1@sbcglobal. net or call 361-575-5331.



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