Ask Chuck: Does my teenage son have to keep looking like a little boy?

May 15, 2014 at 12:15 a.m.

By Charles Colson

The barber who cuts my teenage son's hair keeps clipping his hair to still make him look like he is a little boy. How do I tell the barber he needs to start looking older?

This is an excellent question that is so important to all teenagers. I remember when I was near 16 that my dad kept asking the barber to really crew my hair off.

This made me feel like I was still 8 years old. Finally, I shocked my dad when I asked him one day if I was old enough to get a man's haircut. This surprised him, and he actually asked the barber to give me a man's haircut.

This would be a very appropriate way to convince the barber that this is what your teenage son was asking for so long. Most barbers and hairdressers would appreciate your input and showing confidence in their work.

Knowing teenagers - like we all do - they begin to have a mind of their own at this age. Another suggestion would be to let the teenager ask himself, and I bet you would be very surprised of the accomplishment. This alone would definitely give your son confidence in himself. Just ask for a little man's haircut.

Charles, I have my hair frosted with foil quite often. But many times, the hairdresser leaves the blonde streaks somewhat brassy looking. Can this be corrected with temporary rinses or even with a hair dye?

The brassiness happens for one of two reasons. First of all, it depends on the base color you are starting with while another is because the hairdresser didn't leave the bleach on long enough to get a more golden blond effect.

Did you know that hair actually goes through nine shades of color during a bleaching process? It is best that you and your hairdresser be on the same page before you ever begin the procedure.

To answer your question further, you can work a temporary rinse over the hair before you finish styling it. Temporary rinses can be found in many shades, and it helps to try several shades, which will not affect the base color because these rinses rinse out every time you shampoo.

As far as permanent dyes, you may accomplish great results with a light enough shade so it will not affect your base color and only tone down the blond streaks. If this still doesn't work for you, you can easily dye your hair back to its normal shade and simply start all over. Just remember to be kind to your hair and hairdresser alike to get the right finishing touch.

I have traveled through many countries and had my hair colored in each one before returning home. My hair is quite multicolored now. What happened?

This so reminds me of a client years ago that did this exact thing. She was surprised that each country had its own way of coloring hair. She actually had seven distinct shades from her scalp to the ends of her hair length.

She wanted a temporary rinse that would last a bit longer than a shampoo. I quickly realized that choosing a medium brown Loving Care rinse should solve this problem. And by George, it actually did the job.

It simply blended all seven shades. We thought immediately that this should be in the history books of hair coloring. All we could think was wow.

Charles Colson is a local hair stylist and registered massage therapist. You may email hair or massage questions to or call 361-575-5331.



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